I never thought the war in Vietnam was going to take such an effect on me and my family. I saw the news and the people dying and crying and never thought anything bad could ever happen to me and my children. But as actions have occurred, War is much more than just soldiers, weapons, drugs, sex. It seems like it never ends, the wars kill some men and kills others emotions and feelings.  My family and I have been through some pretty rough times but nothing is like having your man the father of your children come back STILL. There were night when I couldn’t sleep in fear that he would want to leave to get drugs. Scared that he will come home angry and want to scream at the children. Even more scared that my children will suffer the consequences of the aftermath of war. I know I am very blessed to still be talking about this and having my family back the way it was; in my opinion even better for the connections we had at our worst times. My husband and I are still together today for 10 years solid. And I Love Him and my children!

Natalie

1. When It’s Time for Drug Rehab

2. Arriving to the Treatment Conclusion

3. Fighting the Addiction with Detox

4. Personalizing Drug Rehab

5. Fighting Addiction with Therapy

6. Physical Treatment for the Addiction Problem

7. Experiential Learning

8. Utilization of the 12-Step Program

9. Family Involvement in Drug Rehab

Paul: Please baby, just leave me alone.

Natalie: Oh no, Amy warned me about this.

Paul: Please just go, it makes me feel so much better.

(Natalie begins lamenting.)

(Knock, Knock, Knock) Haley knocked on the bedroom door.

Haley: Mom, dad are you okay?

Natalie: Yes, baby its okay go and watch some TV.

Paul started lamenting as well.

Natalie: I’m very sorry Paul but I can’t let you do this. I am not letting you kill you and this family because of that stupid shit. Im doing something about this now.

“Although young men from the Vietnam War era have reduced their use of illicit drugs as they have moved into middle age, some still have a problem, a new study shows.”

“The men who were young during the Vietnam War are now in their 40s and 50s. One visualizes them, both veterans and nonveterans, as seasoned by desk jobs or steady work, very possibly married and responsible for families. The war era and the turbulent 1960s, with the widespread use of illicit drugs, is now long behind them. Or is it?”

Price and his coworkers focused on 839 men who were a fairly good cross-sample of American men who had been around age 22 during the Vietnam War era. The 839 subjects included 323 men who had served in the Vietnam War until 1972 and who had used illicit drugs during that period; 319 men who had served in the war until 1972 and who had not used illicit drugs during that period; and 197 controls—men who had not served in the war, but who were matched with the other subjects on age, education, draft eligibility, and some other factors. (Illicit-drug use among Veterans was identified via urine tests that were administered at the time they left Vietnam.)

For instance, 45 percent of the men who had used illicit drugs while serving in the war reported having used cocaine at least five times since 1972, 14 percent of the veterans who had not used illicit drugs during the war reported the same, and 13 percent of the controls reported the same. But by 1996-97, the use of cocaine reported by all three groups combined was only 9 percent. Similarly, 72 percent of the men who had used illicit drugs while serving in the war reported using marijuana at least five times since 1972, 37 percent of the veterans who had not used illicit drugs during the war reported the same, and 26 percent of the controls reported the same. But by 1996-97, the use of marijuana reported by all three groups combined was only 18 percent.

These figures say that soldiers in Vietnam came back addicted to drug and needed way more help.

I wanted to talk to you about something personal but I couldn’t quite let you know this afternoon in person. I am really starting to get worried. Now you know my husband came about a month ago and he seems so distant. He seems so depressed. I mean I have an idea of what he went through with all the media, but I don’t think they prepared us for everything. I think he came back wanting to be unfaithful to me, I can feel it and I think it goes way deeper than that. I don’t want to jump into conclusions but I think he is also doing drugs. He seems really out of it. I also could detect that he has anger towards me and the children. That is why he wasn’t so around when you came over this evening. I am so afraid, I have no idea what to do.

Amy

PS. Sorry for telling you so much I just had to tell someone. I am scared for my family.

Paul: Yes I know me too.  I am actually pretty tired I might go to bed a little earlier.

Natalie: Really, Paul? Don’t you want to eat some dinner?

Brady: Come on, Dad. Why don’t you stay up a little longer.

Paul: No i don’t think so. I am just not feeling too good.

John: Ahh, dad common.

Haley: Pleaseeee!

Paul: I said NO already. Damn it is my first night back and I have all this hollering from you guys. Can’t you guys tell I wanna be alone.

(John starts crying in the background this is the first time they hear their dad scream at them.)

(Paul throws the magazine he was reading and beams out to his bedroom.)

Haley: Mom, is dad okay?

Natalie: I’m not sure baby. Lets just prepare dinner.

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